Sharing Time Idea from the 2016 Outline
Introduce the doctrine: Ask the children to turn to 1 Corinthians 3:16 and read the scripture aloud together. Tell the children that one of the ways we treat our bodies like temples is by dressing modestly. Display “My Gospel Standards,” and have the children read aloud the standard that says, “I will dress modestly to show respect for Heavenly Father and myself.”
Encourage understanding: Discuss what dressing modestly means (see the “Dress and Appearance” section of For the Strength of Youth). Prepare several posters with “I will dress modestly by …” written at the top. Divide the children into groups, and ask each group to write their commitment to dress modestly or draw a picture of themselves in modest dress on one of the posters. Display the posters in the Primary room.
Sharing Time Ideas from Little LDS Ideas
I know this is a touchy subject. The last time I shared ideas for this topic someone asked why we even need to teach young children about modesty. I admit, before I had children I didn’t see what the big deal was, but I now see the importance of teaching these sweet young children the importance of modesty and respecting our bodies. We are bombarded by media teaching our young children that you can’t be beautiful unless….(enter your own phrase here). We need to remind these children ‘who they are and whose they are’. We have been asked by prophets to dress modestly and to treat our bodies like temples. We teach the children all other gospel teachings and principles, so why do we feel like we shouldn’t teach children about modesty?
My daughter has noticed a lot of her friends wearing tank tops during the summer, and has asked if she could wear them. Yes, she is only 8 years old, and it probably wouldn’t be a big deal if she did, but I want to teach my daughter that just because the crowd is doing or wearing something doesn’t mean she has/needs to. This was a great opportunity to teach her about modesty and why we don’t wear those types of things.
When teaching this topic there is no need to be hurtful or rude. As long as you teach gospel doctrine there shouldn’t be a problem. 🙂
DOING THE LAUNDRY
Using a small box, construct a small washing machine. You could cover it in white paper and then cut a door in the top or the front. Draw dials and buttons, etc. to make it look like a real washing machine.
Next you will need to cut out several paper shirts, pants, shorts, etc. On the back of each you could have a picture of different clothing or just simply write ‘sleeveless shirt’, ‘clean pants’, ‘low cut shirt’ etc. If you don’t want to have articles of clothing on the back you could write some scenarios. You could have different scenarios about clothes shopping with friends, getting ready for church, what to wear during the summer.
If you’re using pictures just remember that we were told to use church approved pictures. I would probably try to draw the clothes or find some clothes clipart without people wearing the clothes.
Have a clothesline at the front of the room and your washing machine filled with ‘clothes’. Tell the children that today you are going to do some laundry.
To Play: Invite a child up to the front and have him/her open the washing machine and pick out an article of clothing.
Have him/her tell you what the article of clothing is. Next have them decide if it’s modest or immodest. If it’s modest have them hang it up on the clothesline. If it’s immodest have them throw it in another laundry basket.
Another way to play: Instead of the clothes being in the washing machine, have all the clothes in a laundry basket. Have the children pick out an article of clothing. If it’s modest have them hang it up, but if it’s immodest tell them that they need to ‘clean‘ it. Have them throw it in the washing machine. While it’s ‘washing’, have them tell you how they could change that article of clothing so that it’s modest.
Again you could use scenarios, pictures, etc.
For Jr. Primary you could even talk about what clothes we wear to certain places or events.
The Beach: swimsuit or snowsuit
Church: Dress or Pajamas
Soccer Game: Flip flops or cleats
You could have a whole bunch of different articles of clothing in a laundry basket. In envelopes have different places or events and have the envelopes hanging on a clothesline. Invite a child up to the front and have them pick an envelope and reveal what place/event it is. Then have them dig through the clothes and find the appropriate clothes, and have them hang them on the clothes line. The very last place could be church, temple, etc. Ask the children why do we dress this way when we go to church? We do this to show respect to our Heavenly Father. What is another way we can show respect to our Heavenly Father by the way we dress? (this might be a tougher question). By dressing modestly! Explain what that means by reviewing ‘My Gospel Standards’ and ‘For the Strength of Youth’.
Here is an idea that I saw on Sugardoodle a few years ago from a wonderful sister. Here is what Wendy shared:
“For an activity I am going to “Clean the Room” (like going fishing). I will have words written on the shirts that are on the floor (like, low cut shirt, clean pants, long shorts, too short shirt etc.)
As the kids fish the shirts up they will have to decide to keep the shirt and hang it up, or throw it away.”
The children love ‘fishing’, so as soon as I saw this comment I knew it was a great idea. Thanks Wendy!
Another Way to Play:
I thought of another way you could do the ‘fishing’. On pieces of paper write different scenarios, for example: going to the beach, going to church, going to sleep, etc. Place the papers in a bag or small container. Then on some other pieces of paper have a picture of an outfit that goes with each scenario (you could also cut out each oufit using colored paper), for example: a bathing suit (one piece for going to the beach), a dress for going to church, pajamas for going to sleep, etc.
To begin ask the children this: “Would you go to a warm beach wearing snow boots? Would you get ready for your soccer game by putting on pajamas? Of course not! There are certain times when you would wear those clothes—like when you are building a snowman or going to bed.
Today we are going to learn the importance of modesty and what kind of clothing is appropriate to wear for different activities. As you think about all of the things you need to do, remember to wear your best clothes when you go to church on Sunday. Elder Dallin H. Oaks
of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles said:
“When we go to worship in a temple or a church, we put aside our working clothes and dress ourselves in something better. This change of clothing is a mark of respect” (“What Should I Wear” Feb. 2007 Friend Magazine
Today we are going to go fishing, but not for fish, for modest clothes! In this bucket I have different activities. You are going to pick one piece of paper and read it and then you are going to have to decide what should be worn for that activity. Then you will have to fish for that outfit.
To play: place the ‘outfits’ on the floor in the front of the Primary room. Pick a child to come to the front and pick the first activity, (Let’s say they pick going to my soccer game). Once they have picked their activity have the child look at the outfits on the ground and ‘fish’ for the appropriate outfit.
Once they have ‘hooked’ the correct outfit have them show the other children. Explain why we would wear that and why it is modest (you may not have to explain that for each outfit).
Children always enjoy a good game of Memory, especially Jr. Primary. This game that I had in mind is really similar to memory, and it’s sure to be a hit!
On small cards have several pictures of modest clothing (below the picture you might write what each one is). Then on a few other cards have a picture of a Frowny face or write ‘Immodest!!’
To begin your sharing time discuss what Modesty means, you could read a little bit from the “For the Strength of Youth”. Tell the children to listen because after you are done reading you are going to play ‘Modest Memory’.
To Play: have the cards attached to a chalkboard,poster-board, or bulletin board. Show the children the cards and tell them that on the back of each card is an article of ‘modest clothing’. They will need to take turns finding the match for each article of clothing. But beware! Some of the cards are Immodest/sad/etc. On the back of some of the cards is a Frowny Face or ‘Immodest’. When one of these cards is chosen the cards will get mixed up.
As you find the match to each article of clothing you could discuss why it’s modest and why it is important to wear modest clothing. You could include a picture of a boy or girl without tattoos and talk about why we should not have tattoos. I saw another comment on Sugardoodle where she is going to compare tattoos with drawing on the walls.
This idea was from Lisa and here is what she said:
“Since we have some children in our ward that are the only members in their families, I feel a great responsibility to be sensitive to their situation…. Do we draw on the walls of the temples? No, just like we don’t draw on ourselves with pens and markers (credit to my husband who pointed out Primary-aged children generally don’t have issues with tatoos, but rather color on themselves with markers and pens-teach the principle).”
I loved that comparison!
Also have a picture of earrings and tell the children that President Hinckly encouraged all Young Women to wear only one pair of modest earrings.
This is a simple game, but I think the children will love it! And they will be looking out for those ‘frowny face’ cards and I’m sure they’ll get so excited when one is turned over.
(I’m having a hard time coming up with names, haha)
For this game have several scenarios written on pieces of paper and placed in an envelope. Number each envelope on the outside. The children will be rolling dice to determine which one, so you will need 6 or 12 envelopes depending on how many dice you use. Have the envelopes posted on a board or hang them on a string strung across the Primary room to mix things up a bit. Here are a couple of examples of scenarios you could have:
“It’s almost time for school to begin. Your best friend
invites you to go to the mall with her to do some
school shopping. While you’re looking through clothes
your friend comes up to you with a sleeveless shirt
and encourages you to buy it. What should you do?”
“Your friend invites you to go to the beach/pool.
But what should you wear?”
You could even have a few quotes from ‘For the Strength of Youth’ with a question or just a quote.You could also have pictures of different articles of clothing on each one. Have some modest and some immodest (You could also just write what they are, ‘short shorts’, ‘sleeveless shirt’, etc.) Have a poster split into two columns, with one side labeled ‘Modest’ and the other side ‘Immodest’.
You could also do a combination of all of these.
To Play: Tell the children that they are going to sing ‘The Lord Gave Me a Temple’. While they sing they are going to pass around a bean bag or some other object. When the music stops, whoever is holding the object gets to roll the dice to choose which envelop they’ll open.
If it’s a question, they must answer it. If it’s a quote, they must read it. If it’s an article of clothing they must decide if it’s modest or immodest. Once they have finished their task continue playing the game by singing and passing it around.
LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE
I saw a great idea on a Facebook group that I am a member of. Some women based their lesson off of an article in this month’s Friend, and even shared some great printables to use for the lesson. You can view the idea, HERE!
I hope you enjoy the ideas that I have shared today. What are your plans for Sharing Time? I would love to hear, so leave me a comment letting me know.
Thanks so much for stopping by! Have a wonderful day and a great Sharing Time!